Marriage is more than simply saying; “I do” to the person I am going to spend my life with. There is more to marriage than dealing with crisis or celebrating achievements. Marriage is about the little things that happen between the honeymoon and the day she snuffs me out with a pillow.
The day-to-day events wreck some marriages and strengthen others. Small issues build up to become big issues driving a wedge between two people that originally loved each other. Talking about the small issues prevents them from becoming divisive. On the other hand, if you have a blog, as I do, you could air out the dirty laundry for all to read.
I distinctly recall the minister asking me if “I would love Laura in sickness and in health?” At no point did he mention cereal boxes, pillows, shoes or vampires.
Laura will not watch True Blood. Not only will she not watch the greatest vampire show ever, she mocks me for watching it.
Previously I revealed Laura has a serious cereal problem. At one time thirteen boxes of cereal were open. Now, because of my heroic efforts only five boxes are open at a time. Laura’s cereal disease also infected our son, but with treatment, he will be OK.
Laura loves pillows. We have pillows all over the couch, the bed, the kid’s bed and even in the basement. We have pillows inside storage bins and on closet shelves. Why do we need this many pillows? I believe Laura plans to decorate our basement like a tent in Arabian Nights.

Our basement
My friend, Dan, came over to watch football. When it was time to leave, he could not find his shoes, wallet or watch. Laura put them “away” assuming they were mine. Constantly my shoes will disappear into an alternate dimension.
Not just shoes disappear. Many times while cooking, Laura begins cleaning the kitchen. Spoons, cutting boards, knives, strainers and on two occasions pans vanish while I am still using them.
Laura thinks my hobbies are corporate schemes to charge high prices for useless equipment. She does not see the difference between putters. She thinks I only need one cycling helmet not five. The need for special running, biking, and golf shoes is silly because all anybody needs are a pair of “gym shoes.”

Gym Shoes
We have been together for sixteen years. Sixteen years of cereal boxes, stuff disappearing and not understanding why I need more than one pair of running shoes.
During our time together, we faced many challenges, some bigger than others. We talk and laugh about the little things, keeping them in perspective. More importantly, we accept our differences and love each other unconditionally.
Currently I am struggling to make a living writing. Laura not only supports the idea, she encourages me to chase my dream. She believes in me and is willing to make sacrifices so I can write. In the end, it does not matter how many boxes of cereal are open at a time. Trust, love and supporting each other make a marriage successful.